As an aside, is it possible for a male to not want to eat because he's holding out for mating? His tank is close to my female's tank, could he maybe smell her?
I caught him striking at a live pinky mouse, but I think he was just scared of it wiggling around, he never grabbed it, and he never tried eating it. I haven't tried picking him up, I've been largely leaving him alone in case I was causing him any anxiety, since that was a suggestion that I might be stressing him out. If I needed him to go into a container for feeding, I would put the container near him and prod him in gently with my tongs.